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Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Love and Marriage
Another long freaking stupid blog post here.

I thought I would like to tell everyone that people who know me well often don't know that I do believe in love. Maybe it's because I'm cynical and all that but yes, I do believe in true love. I should know better, and I do. I hate love and I know that love sucks but still we're all stupid because we all know love sucks yet we can't help falling in it.

Truth is, love can make us do anything. Love will make us do anything. And sometimes these things come right back to bite you on the ass. I wouldn't wish love problems upon any enemies I have no matter how much I hate them. Love problems are hell. Grief, disappointment, all that is nothing compared to the pain of heartbreak. At least for me la. It just hurts crazy hell. I do not want anyone to go through that at all.

But marriage I totally do not believe in. Yes, look at my parents, my friends' parents, my teachers, yadda yadda living in marital bliss. Maybe it's for them but as of now, I totally would not want to get married. It's way overrated and overcommercialised. "A girl's biggest day", or "Only once in a lifetime day".

I usually roll my eyes. Marriage is another routine, another ceremony, another over-planned party, another free meal for feeding my friends. As long as there's love, I don't see why I would need marriage to consummate my love. Union of two souls, bla bla, society to approve of my love, taking my commitment to the next level. Doesn't appeal to me. From a young age, I never envisoned myself in a white gown. I always wanted to be an independent woman, able to leave a relationship whenever I wanted and not participate in the chokehold I see as marriage.

I also don't see the hype about premarital sex. If you're not having sex with total strangers ok lah. As long as there's love why not just do it? What's the difference between after marriage and before marriage? Just a certificate. DOn't bullshit me please for my 'ajaran sesat', I'm not Christian or anything, and that's how I feel. (And please don't blame budaya kekuningan either, I love being Asian really.)

I mean, having sex is having sex however you are intertwined (no pun intended). We're just like animals, nothing special about it, only our brains grossly overrate feelings. From a scientific point of view, it's ridiculous. It's another biological process all people do, and so why the hell do we need a certificate for that? Marriage is nothing but that, a certificate.

I love blogging bullshit. This does not show I am breaking up or anything. It's just how I think. I'm perfectly happy with my relationship or whatever right now.

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